Mrs. Linklater came across an AOL journal called, The world is a wild ride. . . and found this paragraph in an entry entitled "Why I can't relate to other women."
"So, I just finished reading an
op-ed piece in the San Francisco Chronicle about women having
difficulty getting into college by writer Joanne Levy-Prewitt. I
don't know where this person is coming from. I have, as a woman,
never experienced discrimination in high school, college, or in my
professional career post-college. I think some women simply hate
men -- perhaps daddy was not a good sound role model for them encouraging
their strength and independence like mine was. They, therefore,
hate all men and blame them for their own shortcomings as a
woman. I think the problem with many women is not so much that
they are stressed out, or high standards are placed on them. I
think their problem is they lack a self-esteem and
accountability. It is easier to blame their plight, or lack of
self-suredness on a man, then to look in the mirror and come to terms
and acceptance with who they are as a person."
Needless to say, this woman is
young. Apparently she hasn't read any recent history books. She is
acting like discrimination never happened. And never happens now. She
also fails to givie proper respect to the women who came before
her. Me for instance. I tried to leave this comment in her
blog, but it was too long. I tried to send it as an email, but I
am not one of her accepted correspondents. So I decided to post
my thoughts here instead.
You say you don't know where the
writer of the Chronicle article was coming from. Forgive me, but I
don't know where you're coming from.
Let me start by asking you to
explain what you mean when you accuse women of blaming men for their
shortcomings as women? Huh?
I can understand when women "blame" men for assigning themselves power,
just because they're male. But blaming them for my "shortcomings" as say, a
chef, a mini van driver or a grass stain remover? If that's what you mean, I don't
I do know that if you scratch guys
of a certain age you'll find that many still think that a woman's
greatest shortcoming is that she isn't a man. They do seem to spend a
lot of time blaming us for not being more like them.
Don't kid yourself about
discrimination. It's alive and well, but it's just gone underground.
You have no idea what has transpired behind your back. Did you try to
get into an engineering school? Get a science scholarship?
Work for a newspaper or TV station as a sportscaster? As a car expert?
Ever have a dream of anchoring the 6:00 news by yourself?
Your generation is fortunate. A lot of things are now in place that weren't in place for my generation.
Athletics were for boys. A girl
couldn't play on a Llittle League baseball team even if she was the
best player in the neighborhood.
Girls had to play girls'
basketball -- six players: three defenders on one half of the court,
three shooters on the other half. No full court play.
Women couldn't run in the Boston Marathon. There was no Olympic marathon for females.
There was no interscholastic competition for high school or college girls.
There were no athletic scholarships for girls. No FREE EDUCATION for any female with athletic prowess.
Speaking of free education, try to get into a military academy back then as a female.
Or join the armed forces so you could fly jets or helicopters.
Try to get hired by an airline as
anything other than a flight attendant, sorry, stewardess, especially
if you got pregnant, or were over a certain age, a certain height, or a
designated weight. And don't gain an extra pound or you're going to be
out of a job.
Women couldn't get jobs as FBI agents, Secret Service agents, dectectives, firefighters and construction workers.
Women couldn't get membership in any of the trade unions to be a plumber or an electrician.
Female journalists got relegated to the women's pages.
Remember the harassment of the first female sportswriters in the lockerroom?
Female ad writers were not allowed to write about "male" products.
Women were ALWAYS paid less because is was assumed they had a husband or would get a husband to take care of them.
It was considered a compliment for an editor to say you wrote like a man.
Our male bosses could make flagrant sexual remarks and overt propositions with impunity.
If pregnant, we HAD to get married. Or go to Mexico for an abortion.
Just try to get hired as a college professor or as the president of a college.
Forget running for president, senator or governor.
You were an OLD MAID if you weren't married by 25.
If you went into medicine you
became a nurse. If you got into medical school, you went into
pediatrics or psychiatry. Female surgeons did not exist.
If you went into law, you became a
lawyer's secretary. If you actually made it through law school
and became an attorney -- just try to make partner.
All anybody cared about was how fast you could type, no matter what school you graduated from.
Your husband made all the decisions.
You couldn't buy a house on your own without a cosigner.
Your husband could rape you.
There was no place to go if you
were abused. My city still only has 500 beds for 7,000,000 people
in the metro area. Cops didn't seem to listen to your complaint. Or
offer help. Plus there were no laws in place. There still aren't any
If you were battered, it was
considered something you caused. There were no hotlines, no counseling,
no advocacy. Forget restraining orders.
Women couldn't join a country club without a husband.
To this day most business is conducted on the golf course.
Or gentlemen's clubs.
Welcome to my world.
The struggle is not over.
I don't think women hate men. I
think the founders of the modern women's movement responded to the
years of built up resentment toward unequal pay and unequal treatment
and set about to rectify it. Good for them.
Like it or not, feminism is in your
generation's DNA. My daughters EXPECT equal pay and equal
treatment. I didn't teach them. They absorbed it from their
teachers as they were growing up. Equal pay and equal rights were built into the curriculum.
who have never been discriminated against -- are you aware that Social Security pays women less than men no matter how much they
earned because women live longer.
Did you know that stay at home moms who
don't work have nothing put away in Social Security? They
have to count on their husbands for
their retirement? And they could be SOL in a divorce.
So, please, don't go taking a bite out of the generation that made sure you got dealt a better hand.