Here's what I know for sure about Sarah Palin -- she is very ambitious. With a special needs baby and an unwed pregnant daughter for starters, she could have said no to McCain.
One person's ambition can be costly to a family. Everyone's needs go on hold in the service of meeting those goals.
It seems like Sarah Palin is all about Sarah Palin. Most of the time when you've got kids, the first thing you give up is a big piece of yourself in support of your children's emotional growth. But it seems like she has asked her kids to support her success instead.
I'm not saying she's cruel or thoughtless. Just that Moms are so key to children that when she can't be there, something's bound to give.
As much as people try to separate her teenage daughter's pregnancy from any failing on Ms. Palin's part, a family is a single entity with many parts, all of which depend on the others. Absent care and attention, a wheel has to squeak to get greased.
Anyone who has tried to have a career while raising children knows the toll it takes on our relationships with them. There just isn't enough time to give each one all the intimate Mom Moments they need. It's a fallacy to think that kids only need quality time; they need face time more -- the ability to look up whenever they want and just see that you're there.
The more children you have the more you need to be around, although older daughters can nurture the younger ones and older boys can help with fathering if there's no father in the picture.
But it's one thing to have a nine to five job that gets you home for dinner. It's another thing to be a governor and not be home with regularity. Kids thrive on consistency. Mom is the emotional heart of a family. If she's a public servant her kids' needs get postponed, delayed, and deferred in the performance of her duties.
The children who get the short end of the stick in this scenario are the older ones, who are thrown into the role and responsibilities of parenting when they still need parenting themselves.
What I find most interesting about Bristol Palin is that it seems like she got pregnant around the same time her little brother was born. He's five months old. She's five months pregnant. I'm sure getting pregnant wasn't a conscious decision, but the coincidence and the reason for it make for a good ponder.
Mom has spent a lot of time in the spotlight. It's not her fault, but the demands of her job mean she doesn't have much time to appreciate what her children are doing to shine for her. The Look At Me Mom factor is an important part of any kid's llife.
Given the family's strict abstinence-only stance on birth control and pro-life position on abortion, what better way is there for a normally obedient young girl to say "I'm not your babysitter anymore" than to do something permanent and irreversible.
All for want of time with her mom. And time to be a kid. Time so she could ask the dumb questions that come up when you're just driving in the car or siting around after dinner. Time to not be responsible for anyone but herself. Time to finally get to her questions about boys. How to keep them coming around. How to keep them from misbehaving.
I'll be curious to see if Bristol really does marry Lecherous Levi or not. He seems like a brainless hunk. No matter what we're being told, I wonder if she will go along with the spin meisters and set a date for her wedding. Then, when things cool down, dump him.
Bristol may have to tell her mom that she has ambitions of her own.