Okay, if you loved that little personal growth exercise on dream houses, you're going to love this one, too.
Mrs. Linklater is going to list the 100 attributes of her ideal man. Every time she has done this someone has shown up. However, at this point in her life, she's not really that interested. But it's such a shame to throw anyone back. Oh, well.
She's only doing this as a public service for all those women who think they know what they want but haven't put it in writing. Just make the list and you'll be surprised [even happy] at who shows up.
Gotta be specific. Exact. No options, like blue OR green eyes. Pick the color. Pick his height.
Here's the first 25 or so. I'll finish later.
[Oh, and all preferences regarding private parts will not be included because this is a family journaling community and the TOS police would love to read me my rights.]
1. 6'4" 2. Thick, salt and pepper hair -- screw that -- DARK 3. Dark blue eyes 4. Pilot 5. Vet 6.Photographer 7. Ivy league [or equivalent] degree 8. Athletic 9. Witty, but not sarcastic 10. Able to cook/barbecue 11. Drives a Jeep 12. Loved his parents 13. Parents are dead 14. Divorced, not involved 15. Has gainfully employed, pleasant, grown children who do not live at home 16. Comfortable in jeans or dressed up, but mostly jeans 17. Non drinker [but not AA] 18. Never smoked 19. Doesn't do drugs 20. Can wash and iron his own clothes 21. Nothing phases him ["She's bringing her dog, okay?"] 22. Goes with the flow ["They want to helicopter over to some island instead, all right?"] 23. Flexible ["Can we do this tomorrow?"] 24. Good relationship with ex-wife ["She's a good mom."] 25. Ex-wife lives way far away ["She's in Africa in the Peace Corps."] 26. Can spell and write [All right, can use SPELLCHECK and write] 27. Entrepreneurial or works in a helping profession 28. Grew up in themidwest 29. Plays a musical instrument
Okay, more later. . .bet you can hardly wait.
30. Reads the New Yorker and Sports Illustrated -- something other than Maxim 31. Likes all kinds of movies [not just Vin Diesel] 32. Pro choice 33. Embraces diversity 34. Sets goals for the year 35. Free of major allergies 36. Doesn't use Viagra 37. Saved someone's life once -- maybe even his own 38. Donates to charity 39. Has carpenter skills 40. Loves animals [but doesn't consider his dog/cat/iguana his best friend] 41. Knows how to travel on a budget 42. Speaks a foreign language 43. Eclectic musical tastes 44. Likes the theater and museums 45. Doesn't have a beard or mustache [just remembered this] 46. Bigger hands and feet than mine [this, too] 47. Went to another country on a charity mission 48. Loves history 49. Has women friends 50. Won the lottery 51. Straight, but not narrow 52. Loves chocolate chip cookies 53. Knows how to ride horses 54. Climbed a mountain 55. Went skydiving, river rafting, ballooning or drove a race car [there's only supposed to be one attribute per number, but I couldn't help myself]
More to come. . .
56. Likes sushi 57. Liberal politics 58. Younger 59. Self-deprecating 60. Workingman's hands 61. Doesn't wear cologne, uses herbal scented soap instead 62. Looks good in a tool belt 63. Rugged, not pretty face 64. Happy about his life 65. Intuitive 66. Open minded, but not naive 67. Tennis player 68. Cyclist 69. Doesn't mind playing catch with me 70. Good eyesight [okay, reading glasses] 71. Can carry a tune [for those evenings when we sing showtunes around the piano] 72. Creative thinker [somelatitude here] 73. Community volunteer [but not a scout leader, coach, or clown, please] 74. Raised Protestant or Jewish, but tempered with Eastern philosophy. 75. American born
Phew, only 25 or so to go. . .
76. Neat but not fastidious [doesn't hang up his shirts according to color] 77. Lean and muscular [but not steroid bulked] 78. Likes the outdoors 79. Owns a Leatherman 80. People are more important than money 81. Thinks I'm funny 82. Writes thoughtful and funny notes and leaves them for me to find 83. Leads by example, not intimidation 84. Remembers special days 85. Does flowers and candy 86. Not in therapy. 87. Not on anti-depressants 88. Only married one other time 89. Owns his home [or a few acres somewhere] 90. Owns Bull Durham 91. Reads non fiction 92. Wears a Rolex 93. Ambidextrous 94. Warm speaking voice on the phone 95. Shuts cell phone off 96. Sees the cup half full, not half empty 97. Been approached about writing a book about his adventures 98. Knows how to build a fire 99. Gun free 100. Thinks I'm amazing
Hm-m-m. Just got a call today, out of the blue, from a guy that fits a lot of these attributes.[See I told you the list works] I haven't talked to him in weeks. But he's already had his chance. And if he's reading this, he knows I'm talking about him.
You can play this game with pictures, too. Once upon a time, Mrs. Linklater had a picture of Joe Namath hanging in her cubicle. She realized later that she married a guy who looked like his blond brother.